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Billie Eilish’s Self-Titled Fragrance Is Sweet, Musky, and “Mentally Sexy”

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Some people have such a distinguishable image that you can just look at them and know exactly what kind of scents they like to wear —  at least, that's the vibe I get while talking to Billie Eilish during a brief chat over Zoom on October 8. We're meeting to discuss her first-ever beauty product, a fragrance aptly named Eilish, which hits digital shelves in November. A combination of sweet, musky, fruity, and woodsy notes, the debut scent is a direct reflection of the singer's music and personality: mysterious, sensual, and a little bit melancholy (but, you know, in a cool way). 

Straight out of the bottle, Eilish hits you with an intense wave of sugary vanilla that calms down once settled into the skin. That overwhelming sweetness quickly transforms into something indescribably intoxicating as soft tonka bean, cocoa, musk, and berries make their way to the surface. The best way I could describe it is the kind of fragrance you'd wear underneath the coziest cashmere sweater while staring out the window of a dimly lit coffee shop on a rainy evening. Or like sleeping in late on creamy silk sheets. Or a sexy marshmallow — the exact kind of scent I had anticipated from Eilish. 

The fragrance, the singer says, is purely a creation of her own necessity because she desperately wanted to wear something that didn't exist… yet. "I had the idea [to create a fragrance] million years ago. I've always wanted to do this," Eilish tells Allure. "I was chasing this one scent that I had in my head of vanilla, amber, musk, cocoa, rose, and wood."

This olfactory idea was just as much about the feeling it could evoke as it was how it actually smells. Inspired by human bodies, Eilish aims to create a sense of intimacy between the person wearing it and everyone who can smell it on them. "I've always been infatuated by necks and collarbones and back muscles and shoulders and armpits. I've always thought they were really beautiful," she elaborates. "I wanted to accentuate that beauty without making it about [sexualizing bodies]."

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In Eilish's own words, "It's not really supposed to be physically sexy. It's almost supposed to be mentally sexy." She approached a plethora of perfumers to help her nail down that vibe, she adds, but nothing turned out the way she'd imagined until 2020 when she crossed paths with fragrance development company Parlux, which has helped develop fragrances for Paris Hilton and Sofia Vergara among other celebrities and fashion designers. 

The pairing was kismet; Parlux's team nailed Eilish's vision on the first try, to her extreme delight. "I described in detail what it is that I wanted, what I loved idea-wise about it, how I wanted it to feel, the kind of warmth that I wanted it to have, and the memories that I have in the vanilla world," Eilish recalls. "When they first sent me the sample to smell, I almost cried because it was so perfect. It was wild."

Eilish's hyper-specific wishes for her first-ever scent don't end at formulation, of course — the bottle it comes in ties it all together. Shrouded in metallic gold, Eilish's bottle is basically a miniature bust sculpture, depicting an anonymous person from the breast-up with their head turned to one side. The very top of the bottle cap has a diagonal slant, cutting off the head right above the nose. Most of the detail sits in the neck and clavicle, where you can see the hills and valleys of tendons. Much like the fragrance itself, it's an ode to being human and feeling an intimate connection with your own body (or someone else's). 

And, at the end of the day, that was all that Eilish wanted. "[I want it to be] personal and relatable and intimate," she concludes. "I just want everybody to be able to see themselves in this bottle and see whoever they wanted to see in the bottle."

Eilish retails for $68 for 3.4 fluid ounces and will be available on billieeilishfragrances.com beginning this November. 

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15 Best Ceramide Skin-Care Products to Nourish Dry Skin

15 Best Ceramide SkinCare Products 2021 to Soothe and Moisturize Dry Irritated Skin

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As far as skin-care ingredients are concerned, ceramides are among the most worthy of opponents when it comes to battling dry skin — which, with colder weather rearing its head, may be something that you're all too familiar with. Thankfully, ceramide-based products are not only a favorite among dermatologists but are widely available at every price point, from drugstore (CeraVe and Amlactin) to luxury brands (Elizabeth Arden and SkinCeuticals).

"Ceramides are fatty acids in the skin that help to maintain the skin barrier and retain moisture and hydration," Shereene Idriss, M.D., a board-certified dermatologist based in New York City, tells Allure. "Extreme cold-weather temperatures, exposure to hot water, and dry heat can all deplete the ceramides stored in your skin," which is why Dr. Idriss says it's critical to introduce ceramide-fortified products to lock in moisture and restore your skin's barrier function. They're also a key ingredient to look out for when treating skin conditions like eczema or moisturizing your skin after a laser treatment.

It helps to think of ceramides as the building blocks in your skin. In addition to possessing hydration-boosting properties, they're especially key for maintaining long-term hydration and strengthening the skin's surface against environmental stressors. When scanning your ingredient lists, look out for ceramide NP, AP, EOP, NG, NP, NS, as well as phytosphingosine and sphingosine. 

"Ceramides are found in high concentrations within cell membranes," New York City-based board-certified dermatologist Ellen Marmur, M.D. says. "They hold skin cells together on the top layer of the skin, forming a protective layer that plumps the skin and retains moisture." As such, barrier-fortifying products are as popular and commonplace as ever.

With that being said, here are 15 of the best ceramide products — rich moisturizers, whipped body creams, and even a retinol-spiked serum — for healthy skin this season (and all year round).

All products featured on Allure are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.

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Rome Can’t Handle Naomi Osaka’s 3D Bear Nail Art

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Naomi Osaka's nails have been going places that some people only ever dream of seeing — aka Rome and all of its ancient treasures. On Tuesday, October 19, the tennis player and founder of Kinlò Skin shared some photos of her cute, bear-themed nail art on Instagram and Twitter while on a Roman holiday. 

The coffin-shaped nails come in a variety of colors such as yellow, orange, pink, blue, and white. They're each topped with mini bear sculptures, which some fans in her Instagram comments section have identified as Rilakkuma, a cartoon bear from Japan. Osaka's vacay nails seem to have also been well received by her fans. Many of them came to her comments section to say how much they love the set. Sadly, Osaka left us hanging as to who's behind all this manicured cuteness. 

Osaka isn't the only celebrity who's expressed her love for all things kawaii on her tips. Megan Thee Stallion has also proudly shown her love for Japanese culture on her nails with at least three sets (each of which you can check out here, here, and here). 

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We're all here for Osaka expressing herself through her nails, and it's not often that we see her posting nailfies. Last time we checked, she showed off some bedazzled digits on Thursday, September 16, which we're guessing were her nails for the Met Gala that was held just days before on Monday, September 13. Regardless of the season and the trends, Osaka's latest set proves you can never go wrong with your nail art — just go with what you love. If you're more partial to following trends, however, we have all the nail inspiration you need to get you through the rest of fall, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and yes, even winter. 

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Beyoncé’s New Bangs Are Inspired By Her “Me, Myself, and I” Music Video

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We don't know what's going on, but Beyoncé has been feeling extra generous with her Instagram posts lately. The "Brown Skin Girl" singer has been vacationing and living her best life in Italy for the past few weeks. She's also been blessing her millions of fans with several carousels full of photos (a wildly rare occasion) featuring all the gorgeous outfits and hairstyles she's been wearing. On October 16, she did the unthinkable and posted three separate looks all in one day, and we don't know what we did to deserve all the content but thank you, Queen Bey. 

However, it's not those posts themselves we are focused on here. We're too busy obsessing over the new sleek bangs that she shared in one of those Instagram carousels on October 19. She looks stunning (I mean, what else do you expect?) in a mint-colored Saïnt Mojavï silk gown, strappy seafoam heels, and a small bedazzled circle bag. To complement the outfit, hairstylist Neal Farinah opted for a sleek, straight hairstyle with brow-skimming side-swept bangs. These eye-grazing bangs shift from brown to caramel to honey-blonde in a seamless ombré effect. Not a hair is out of place in this style that cascades to her waist. 

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Farinah looked to Bey's early career, specifically her 2003 "Me, Myself, and I" video, for inspiration for this hairstyle, as he noted in an Instagram post. For those who may have forgotten the amazing video, in one major scene, the Houston singer is on the floor singing her heart out with straight, medium-length hair and blonde bangs that fall into her eyes. This style is not exactly the same, but we appreciate the tribute to the beauty looks from earlier years. 

We have a good feeling that by the time we fully recover from experiencing these new bangs, we'll get another Instagram notification letting us know the Queen has graciously posted yet another new photo set. These bangs could be gone by then, but if Farinah is taking inspiration from her early career, perhaps we'll be seeing brunette Beyoncé very soon. 

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The Career Advice You Need to Hear, Based on Your Enneagram






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Our careers make up a large part of our lives. We go to college to get a job, we spend time (and money!) to perfect our resumes to land our dream job in our field, spend 40+ hours a week trying to build our portfolios and make a name for ourselves, devour all the career advice we can—and we still have more than 30 years to go before retirement. So we might as well make it as good as it can be, right?

Career advice is some of the most sought after here at The Everygirl, but it’s not one-size-fits-all. Not all of us struggle with the same issues, and what some of us have figured out keeps others up at night. But we found the best way to give targeted career advice to a large audience: the enneagram! Our favorite personality test might be the best way to learn how you can boost your career, improve your productivity, and reach all of your goals. 

 





Ones are all about improving themselves. They’re called The Perfectionists because they want everything around them to be good and done correctly. They’re responsible and detail-oriented, making them strong candidates for jobs that require precision and accuracy. As an employee, you can count on them to turn in quality work.

With their perfectionist nature, they are their biggest inner critic. They worry that their work isn’t good unless it’s perfect, which can disrupt deadlines or cause issues when working with a team. Understand what makes you a strong employee and leader and own it. Growing your confidence in the workplace will improve your quality and quantity of work. 

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Relationship-oriented, caring, and supportive, twos are all about helping others. They make amazing coworkers and team members because they’re all about being there for every member of the group.

When you’re creating friendships at work, make sure you set boundaries. Is this person just a work friend? Are you going to talk about work outside of the office, or is your friendship and work relationship separate? Keep these questions (and answers) in mind for a seamless relationship that is beneficial at work and at happy hour. 

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I’m sure there are a lot of threes reading this right now. They love leadership development and being the best employee or manager they can be. They’re always trying to level up their career, and they take a lot of pride in being career-focused. They’re goal-oriented and feel accomplished when they are appreciated and praised at work.

Focus on building your career by finding your niche—where do you fit in your company? Are you the one who’s known for amazing customer service and personality? Or do you excel at following data leads and executing projects? 

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The Romantic is idealistic and seeks meaningful experiences, especially in their careers. They long to create and show their artistic expression through their career, which makes them perfect for roles that require thinking outside of the box and discovering unique ideas and solutions for problems.

Find ways to keep your productivity up to tackle your biggest goals, especially if a side hustle is on that list. Fours struggle with balancing their emotions with their logic mind, so focusing on your overall career goals instead of your goals within your current company will allow you to broaden your horizons. 

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If you’ve ever sat in your office and thought about how much more productive and efficient you’d be if you were at home, odds are, you’re a five. Fives are analytical and enjoy having time and space to themselves to work.

Focus on building up your home office space (whether it’s a room with a view or your bed). This will give you the privacy and energy you crave to accomplish tasks and complete projects on your own time. 

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If you’re in an industry with a lot of competition, you’ll want a six on your team. They are trustworthy and loyal and will work hard to discover the strategies to accomplish team goals.

Sixes are hyper-aware of what’s going on around them, so they have a sense of perception that others might not understand. However, this can also make them quite pessimistic and anxious, often causing them to focus so intently on their main goals while forgetting the small ones necessary to get them to the end. Look at your goals closely to discover the small steps you need to achieve them. 

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Sevens are amazing at staying in the moment, which allows them to be optimistic and adventurous. They’re the employees who will gladly take up new opportunities to travel to another office or try out that new productivity app that everyone is buzzing about.

They love thinking ahead to future plans while keeping a fast-paced mindset on achieving and setting new goals consistently. All this can lead to burnout quickly, and the last thing a seven wants is to feel unmotivated and bored at work. To combat this, delegate tasks that bore you as much as possible and work on new, interesting projects as much as you can to get you excited again. 

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Competition is a daily source of motivation and drive for an eight. In the workplace, they’re leaders who take charge and ask the necessary questions to propel their careers further. They’re always looking for the next opportunity, whether it’s a raise, a promotion, or a new leadership role.

Keep your career thriving by asking for more duties at work. This initiative will certainly impress your boss when it comes time to discuss raises and promotions later in the year.

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Nines are all about going with the flow, and when it comes to their career, they seek to harmonize and work with others as much as possible. They are easygoing and empathetic, so they understand and see all sides and possibilities of a conflict.

While twos are typically considered the people-pleasing type, nines can often get caught up in trying to keep the peace in situations that actually call for a little productive conflict. Your relationships won’t suffer if you speak up about something that is bothering you—remember that, and you’ll start to feel more respected and confident in the workplace.

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10 Things to Do If You Need a Confidence Boost






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Confidence might sound like some fluffy, idealistic principle your Girl Scout leader used to talk about, but it’s actually the most powerful, tangible thing you can cultivate to achieve the life you want. You might have learned from ’90s makeover movies that once you make major changes, then you’ll finally feel confident. But actually, confidence is the key to make drastic improvements, whether it comes to your health, career, or relationships. In other words, stop waiting for circumstances to happen and, instead, work on boosting confidence first. The changes you want to make in your life will happen as a byproduct. Here are 10 concrete ways to love yourself like Lizzo and boost confidence to achieve your best life.

 

1. Be brutally honest with yourself

Do you love your job? Do you genuinely enjoy all of your friendships? Are you open about the hobbies that bring you joy (yes, even the geeky ones)? Not only will being brutally honest illuminate areas in your life where you’re not your true self, but it will also force you to stop trying to “fit in” (middle school trauma can still really affect us, you know?). And when you realize what you do genuinely love and enjoy, do more of it. You can’t be fully confident unless you openly own, accept, and feel comfortable with who you are.

That also means knowing your strengths and accepting whatever you previously deemed a “weakness.” You know that famous quote by Albert Einstein that’s written on inspirational cards and quoted in graduation speeches? “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Remember this lesson when you’re picking at your “weaknesses.” If you’re shy in large groups, don’t sit around wishing you were more outgoing. Instead, appreciate that you’re really charismatic in one-on-one situations. Keep track of the hobbies, people, and activities that make you feel like your true self, and then seek them out more. 

 

2. Use visualization

Before first dates or big presentations, we often focus on the worst-case scenarios—not just your-date-turned-out-to-be-a-serial-killer type of scenario, but the forget-the-entire-presentation or what-if-they-don’t-like-me kinds of scenarios. Instead, visualize yourself acing the presentation or enjoying the first date as the highest version of yourself. If you’re not sure what your highest self looks like, think about how you act in your most comfortable relationships. Are you goofy, vivacious, enthusiastic, kind, or thoughtful? Do you have a memory of when felt good about yourself? Visualize showing up as that person and the best-case outcome. You’ll not only feel more confident going into uncomfortable situations, but you’ll also be more likely to achieve your highest self.

 





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3. Practice empathy and positivity

We’ve already established that confidence requires a change in internal mindset, not a change in outside validation. But if changing your mindset was as easy as flipping a switch, we’d all be confident. So the key to self-confidence? Empathy and positivity. Just like happiness, empathy and positivity are skills, not circumstances. When you work those muscles on other people and situations, you’ll start to feel empathy and positivity for yourself too. Work on positive thinking through gratitude journaling or exercises, and prioritize the glass-half-full mentality in all situations. See the good in other people (including celebrities, influencers, and frenemies—ex-boyfriends are exempt from this list), and you’ll start to see more good in yourself too (guaranteed). 

 

4. Accept compliments

PSA: Can we agree to stop downplaying when we receive a compliment? It’s just not true that putting ourselves down makes other people feel more comfortable. In fact, it typically makes people more uncomfortable, not to mention that it’s hurting your confidence. When a coworker tells you that you nailed the presentation, don’t respond with “Really? I messed up the whole second half!” Say, “Thank you so much! I worked so hard and am so excited about how it turned out.”

Likewise, when a friend compliments your hair, don’t say, “Ugh, I have such frizzy hair, I spent 45 minutes getting it to lay straight!” Instead, respond with a simple “Thank you!” and take a moment to internally feel good about yourself (why yes, my hair does look phenomenal. *Cues ***Flawless by Beyoncé*). If just saying “thank you” feels uncomfortable, feel free to give a compliment in return, but stop downplaying the compliments you receive. 

 





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5. Be smart about social media

It’s no secret that social media can be a confidence sucker. Being constantly bombarded by the pretty, filtered version of other people’s lives is not exactly the best recipe to feel good about our own. We know that we only put our very best pictures, selfies, and sides for the world to see while keeping “real life” (like messy kitchens, PMS tears, and stretch marks) offline. But somehow, it doesn’t always register that other people do the same. Do yourself a favor and mute or unfollow everyone on Instagram except a few select accounts that bring you inspiration, motivation, and happiness whenever you click through their feed or stories (like, IDK, @theeverygirl, just as a totally random example). 

 

6. Change the words that follow “I am”

Personally, my identity has been defined as a writer my whole life. I’ve put myself into categories of “I’m a writer” and “I’m creative,” but because of that identity, I also said, “I’m not good at business” or “I am not a math person.” I loaded up on English classes in college and didn’t take one business, finance, or economics class. I always took on the “creative and free-spirited” type of personality and didn’t feel confident in any skills related to business or personal finance. 

But when I became a grown-ass woman (AKA, like a few months ago, but that depends on who you ask), I was over feeling like I wasn’t good with money. I started telling myself, “I am a businesswoman” and “I am smart with money.” It gave me the confidence to sign up for finance classes and start my own side business. The lesson here? Think about what stories you’ve been telling yourself about who you are, and then replace the words that follow “I am.”  Have you been telling yourself, “I am awkward,” “I am shy,” “I am ugly,” or “I am not good enough?” Change the words after “I am” to anything you want to be, and eventually, you’ll start to believe it.

 





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7. Get outside yourself

As humans, we see reality through our own perspectives, and therefore, everything centers on the way we experience it. When you’re feeling a lack of confidence, it can be tempting to wallow in your feelings or vent to friends. While you should lean on the people who make you feel better, make sure to get outside yourself too. Ask other people questions more than you talk about yourself or volunteer for an organization that needs help.

Not only will focusing on other people make you feel better about yourself (because nothing is more powerful than helping someone else), but you’ll also realize that other people don’t think about you the way you think they do. Other people are too caught up in their own problems to realize you’re a little awkward or have a breakout on your chin. One of the most important life hacks I’ve ever learned: You’ll stop feeling self-conscious the minute you turn your attention to helping someone else. 

 

8. Do more things that make you uncomfortable

Stepping outside your comfort zone is—you guessed it—uncomfortable, but it can make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself. Try something new that you’re scared to try, whether it’s cooking a new type of food, attending a different workout class, or networking with people you’re typically too shy to reach out to. The good news is that you don’t have to be good at whatever new thing you’re doing in order to boost self-esteem. In fact, you probably won’t be good. The confidence comes when you keep showing up, even when you’re not good at it. It will teach you to feel comfortable in uncomfortable situations and accomplished in trying something new. 

 





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9. Keep promises to yourself

We have a conception that “confidence” has to mean thinking highly of ourselves, which is not necessarily true. To break it down, confidence is actually a combination of both self-esteem and self-efficacy. Self-efficacy refers to the belief you have in yourself to accomplish something. In other words, to boost confidence, you must make and keep promises to yourself. If you want to eat more veggies or get to bed earlier, make a plan, and then follow through with it, not just to accomplish the goal but also to build trust in yourself. Think of it like a friend: The more you can rely on them and trust them, the more you love and respect them. The same goes for the relationship you have with yourself. Eat what you say you will, get to bed when you say you will, and then watch your confidence skyrocket.

 

10. Cultivate the “eff it!” mentality

Channel your inner Dua Lipa and just don’t care. Typically, I’m not a fan of IDGAF energy (I think caring is the most powerful thing we can do as human beings, even when it hurts), but when it comes to cultivating self-confidence, I’m an advocate. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that not everything is as big of a deal as you make it in your mind. You gained a few extra pounds—who cares? You’re shy meeting new people—big deal! The side business you want to launch might fail—so what? Doing something you want to do or being someone you want to be (while saying “screw you!” to insecurities) might be the absolute best thing you could ever do for yourself. Reminder: Don’t take everything so seriously; it’s just life! The point is to enjoy it. 

 

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Your Ultimate Guide to Cashmere Sweaters

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There’s nothing quite like those first chilly days of the fall season, when you finally toss your T-shirts aside and throw on a cozy sweater for the first time in months—especially if it’s a tried-and-true cashmere one that you look forward to unpacking from storage year after year.

It’s no secret—or surprise, given the vast differences in sweater prices—that some sweaters last longer than others. If you pick one up for $10 at a fast-fashion store, it’s probably going to survive one season of wear, but if you choose to invest in higher-quality ones, you might not have to buy another sweater for years. And those higher-quality ones? They’re likely made of cashmere.

Cashmere has a reputation for being one of the softest materials ever, but what exactly is it, how much is normal to be spending on it, and most importantly, once you own it, how do you take care of it? We’re giving you the ultimate deep dive into cashmere and how to make the most of the chilly season’s best material.

 

What exactly is cashmere?

Cashmere is a form of wool, characterized by the fineness of its fibers, according to Masterclass. It’s widely considered to be one of the most high-end fibers and errs on the more expensive side due to its production process in which fibers are separated by hand from the molted coats of goats. 

Cashmere comes from two places: cashmere goats and pashmina goats. The fibers are generally taken from the underside of goats or near the neck region. Once the goats shed their coats, their wool is gathered, and the cashmere is combed out of it.

 

How to take care of cashmere

Once you have cashmere in your wardrobe, you don’t want to make the wrong move and risk shrinking it or harming the fibers. Luckily, taking care of cashmere isn’t as hard as you might assume and definitely shouldn’t be a deterrent from buying it. The idea that you need to dry-clean cashmere every time it needs a wash? Also a myth.

The safest way to wash your cashmere is by hand, with a detergent that’s specifically formulated for cashmere and wool. 

  • Fill your sink or a bucket with lukewarm water, then add a squirt of cashmere-specific detergent
  • Submerge your sweater (or any cashmere piece) and gently swirl it in the detergent-filled water
  • Let the sweater soak for up to 30 minutes
  • Once it’s been soaked, rinse it with clean water (that’s lukewarm or cool, not hot)
  • Avoid wringing it. Instead, remove the water by pressing the sweater into a ball. After the excess water is out, lay it flat and allow it to air dry





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Be sure to give your cashmere some TLC between washes. Even when you’re being careful and hand-washing, over-washing your sweaters can lead to the fibers wearing down more quickly. Only wash them when you absolutely have to.





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Our favorite cashmere

Yes, cashmere is on the pricier side, but that doesn’t mean a sweater needs to run you hundreds of dollars. Our favorite cashmere sweaters run the cost of a couple of your fast-fashion ones, but with a little care, these will last you years longer.

 

Under $100





NAADAM

Crewneck Cashmere Sweater

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NAADAM

V-Neck Cashmere Sweater

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Under $150





J.Crew

Cashmere Mockneck Sweater

4 colors available

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J.Crew

Featherweight Cashmere Sweater

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Madewell

Plus Resourced Cashmere Sweater

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Nordstrom

Cashmere Sweater

5 colors available

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Nordstrom

Cashmere Turtleneck Sweater

10+ colors available

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Madewell

Plus Donegal (Re)sourced Cashmere Crewneck Sweater

2 colors available

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J.Crew

Cashmere Classic Sweater

10+ colors available

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J.Crew

Cashmere Collared Sweater

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J.Crew

Cashmere Crewneck Sweatshirt

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Everlane

The Cashmere Polo

4 colors available

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Nordstrom

Essential V-Neck Sweater

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Under $200





J.Crew

Ribbed Cashmere Oversized Sweater

4 colors available

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Everlane

The Cashmere Square Turtleneck

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The Simple Saving Strategies That Actually Helped Me






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Financial experts note that people tend to fall into two categories: savers and spenders. I’m the latter; I have a habit of making purchases based on what I want instead of what I need. To curb my impulsive “I can afford everything” buying mentality, I tracked my spending decisions over the past 30 days. Here’s what I learned—and how you can use these saving strategies to allow your dollars to add up in a more impactful way over time.

 





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1. I stopped buying coffee every morning

I’m a self-proclaimed coffee junkie. I love the smell of freshly ground beans, the first hot sip of french roast on a blustery winter day, the icy jolt from a tall glass of cold brew. I also love the ritual of stopping at a coffee shop on my way to work. It feels like a special treat, just for me, before diving into the hurried tasks of my day. Oh, and I’m a mom to a nine-month-old for whom sleep is optional, so there’s that.

However, the cost of each barista visit adds up quickly. I realized that I was easily spending around $2-6 a day. On a beverage! If you do the basic math, that is something like $500-1500 a year. Considering that is the cost of a super sweet vacation, I challenged myself to stop buying coffee for 30 days and simply make it at home.

The first week sucked. I longingly stared out the window at my favorite cafe every time I drove past, and then took a sip out of my to-go mug of coffee made at home, which was… fine. It still got the job done; I mostly experienced the natural lows that occur from being disciplined (sigh) instead of spontaneous (yay!). Instead, I saved coffee purchases for meetings or dates with other people—moments when I could linger, chat, and truly enjoy my beverage with great company. This resulted in many upsides, such as a reduced caffeine reliance, more money in my pocket, and a better appreciation for treat yo’ self days. (Hint: it’s not a treat when you get it every day!)

Monthly savings: $60-180

 

2. I limited dining out to special occasions

Growing up, my family usually went out to dinner to celebrate specific events: birthdays, relatives in town, Christmas Eve after late night mass. We ordered pizza a few times a year on Friday nights, complete with watching new episodes on ABC’s TGIF and drinking Pepsi out of the can. If that sounds lame, it wasn’t—because I knew that dining out marked a special occasion. Somewhere along the way I forgot that, and eating out became the norm due to a hectic schedule, lackluster cooking skills, and a taste for convenience.

Typically, I eat out for lunch 1-2 times a week, and my husband and I either pick up dinner or visit a restaurant 1-3 times, mostly on the weekend. That can cost anywhere from $8-15 for a single lunchtime outing and $20-75 for take-out or a sit-down meal, not to mention the fact that labor costs are rising, which has led to restaurant prices inching up. To save money for 30 days, I made a conservative choice to limit weekly dining out to one lunchtime outing on my own and one weekend dinner out as as couple. I wanted to see if I could retrain myself to view dining out as a special, cherished event, rather than an everyday occasion.

The result? I didn’t notice much of a difference; I simply needed to do a bit more meal planning for work and home. I also felt better health-wise and had more energy. Sure, pulling out a tuna sandwich and an apple at my desk felt less exciting than the Whole Foods salad bar—but spending the extra cash on a nice steak dinner with my husband and our favorite bottle of pinot noir later that week was worth every penny.

Monthly savings: $32-60 (by dropping one individual lunch per week) and $80-300 (by dropping one dinner for two per week)

 





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3. I stuck to a list

Otherwise known as, “how I avoided accidentally spending $100 at Target on shit I don’t need.” Even though the dollar section always calls my name and insists I need new notepads or decorative candles, I’m learning that if I actually stick to a legitimate list of items, I end up saving money. This approach proved useful at any store; before going on errands, I wrote down my list of items and then did my very best to only purchase those specific things. If I walked down an aisle and thought, “Oh! I forgot that I needed shampoo!” I asked myself if I was legitimately out of shampoo or if I was just running low. I discovered it was often the latter, and realized I could put shampoo, for instance, on my next shopping list. And at the grocery store, I learned that having a list kept me from buying (usually unhealthy) splurge items (like large packages of sour gummy worms).

Was it less fun to shop that way? Well, yes. It feels limiting to buy what’s on your list rather than view a store as your oyster; however, I’m not made of money and need to stick to a budget. This helped, immensely. One surprising perk: I also saved a lot of time by sticking to a list because I didn’t aimlessly wander around the store every time; I got in and got out with the things that I needed.

Monthly savings: $10-100

 

4. I remembered how to have old-school fun.

Once I became an independent adult, my idea of fun shifted to events that pretty much always cost money: drinks, dinners, concerts, plays, vacations, classes, parties… it all had a price, and I wanted to see if I remembered how to have fun the old-school way. You know, for free. Turns out there were plenty of things to do, like walking around the local art museum with a girlfriend, or running an informal 5k with my sister instead of signing up for an official race, or watching Netflix at home with stovetop popcorn.

At first, it felt a little boring, but mostly because my expectations were accustomed to thinking about activities as being Instagram-able first and foremost. I also felt a little self-conscious and lame by offering up alternative suggestions to friends who wanted to go out. But I got over it, and my friends never honestly seemed to mind because they just wanted to spend time together.

There’s joy in the simple things, like hanging out with the people you love with no agenda or timetable or required five-course meal. At the end of the 30-day period, I desperately felt ready for a nice glass of wine at a fancy bar; I wanted to fill up my calendar with everything fun. However, this exercise taught me to be more creative, more present, and more appreciative of people instead of things.

Monthly savings: $15-200

 





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5. I took a break from my phone

Earlier this year, I received a serious lecture from my husband about the fact that I went over our data plan pretty much every single month. This had become a massive habit of mine, and an expensive one since most cell phone carriers charge $5-15 for each GB of overage. To mitigate these unexpected costs, I forced myself to shut off cellular service for all applications unless I had access to Wi-Fi.

I soon noticed that I absent-mindedly checked my phone alllll the damn time. Usually for no good reason whatsoever. Additionally, I used GPS when I didn’t need to (I mean… I know how to get from my sister’s house to my apartment) and browsed Spotify to my heart’s content during long car rides. And social media? I opened those apps constantly, just to look and basically distract myself from real life whenever I felt bored, lonely, or anxious. I also, gulp, came face-to-face with my penchant for grabbing my phone while driving, which is incredibly unsafe. I thought I was being quick at a stop light to glance down at my email, when I was really just making life on the road unsafe for myself and others.

By putting my phone down, leaving it in my purse, or setting it aside, I not only saved money each month, I also had the opportunity to be much more aware on a daily basis. My emotional state improved, since I wasn’t continuously comparing my life to virtual reality. The data savings were great, but I felt grateful to kick a bad habit along the way.

Monthly savings: $5-20

 

Cutting these five items from my monthly budget taught me valuable lessons and put hundreds of dollars back into my bank account. Most importantly, it reminded me to make more meaningful, thoughtful financial choices, such as making extra student loan payments, money saved for a down payment on a house, and more bulk to my savings.

 

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12 Self-Care Practices That Are Completely Free






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The buzzword “self-care” is certainly having a moment, but the concept of caring for your mind and body is not going anywhere. It’s easy to get swept up in work, friends, relationships, and to-do lists, and our own wellbeing often gets put on the back burner. Most of us are more comfortable prioritizing other people over ourselves, and we forget that self-care actually helps put us in a better state to provide for the other people in your life. We cannot be the best versions of ourselves if we are not practicing regular self-care and attending to our own needs. 

But self-care looks different to everyone. What makes me feel good may not be so relaxing to you, and vice versa. The great thing about the rising buzz factor of different self-care methods is that there really is no shortage of options. The potential downside is that many of these options come with a price tag (looking at you, pricey bath salts and candles). To help us all add a little self-care into our lives without breaking the bank, I caught up with Morgan Raphael, creator of the Self-Care Society, to put together a list of 12 self-care practices you can start today (and not one of them requires your credit card).

 

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Morgan Raphael
FOUNDER OF THE SELF-CARE SOCIETY
Morgan is a wellness blogger, entrepreneur, and creator of the Self-Care Society, a community and resource for women to prioritize their mental health.

 

1. Start a daily journaling practice

There are so many great options out there when it comes to a daily journal with prompts, affirmations, and quotes. Morgan has her own version (which I love and highly recommend), but it can be just as impactful to simply put pen to paper on your own. Set aside a few minutes at the start or end of your day to do a “brain dump” and release those pent up emotions that may otherwise stay locked in your head.

 

2. Make a daily gratitude list

Practicing gratitude is huge when it comes to manifesting more good things into your life and is an extremely beneficial method of self-care that costs absolutely nothing. Start small by simply listing out three to five different things that you’re grateful for each day. But don’t just scribble out the basics—take time to appreciate each thing on your list and why you are grateful for it. The more gratitude you practice, the more you will find to be grateful for.

 

3. Go for a walk (without headphones)

For me, walks are crucial. I love stepping outside with no destination and no scrolling. I purposely take this time to myself without any music or distractions so I can really tune into my thoughts and how I am feeling. You will be so surprised with the amazing ideas you have and clarity you gain when you just take 5-10 minutes to unplug, get outside, and move the body.

 

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4. Call a friend who always lifts your mood

Is there someone in your life who always seems to know what to say? Or maybe they always make you laugh, even when you’re in a bad mood? Sometimes the best form of self-care is knowing that you need a friend. Don’t take those friendships for granted and don’t hesitate to lean on the people in your life when you need them. Set aside some time in your busy week to connect with a friend, family member, or coworker who will lift your mood. Bonus: Taking this time for yourself will help you be that person for someone else too.

 

5. Write a list of your accomplishments and goals

Why don’t we do this more often? Goal setting is huge for me, but so is acknowledging what I’ve achieved. If you are ever feeling down about something in your life or you’re comparing yourself to other people, take a moment to list out everything you have accomplished (both big and small), and hold onto that list to come back to the next time you’re questioning yourself. Let’s all celebrate our wins a little more.

 

6. Donate 10 items you no longer need

Hello, Marie Kondo! Having moved nine times in the past 10 years, let’s just say I have perfected the art of tidying up. I have no issue saying goodbye to items that I know no longer serve me. Whether that means a Zara top you bought three years ago and never wore or an old stack of books collecting dust under your bed, never underestimate the power of simply releasing things that you don’t need in your life, and bonus points if you give them to someone who does.

 

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7. Indulge in a book, movie, or TV show that makes you feel good

Did you spend your Sunday lounged in front of the TV watching old rom-coms and then feeling guilty about your lack of productivity? Lose the guilt! TV binging totally counts as self-care, and losing yourself in a feel-good show or movie can be a great way to turn off for a bit and recharge. For me, books are the ultimate self-care because it is one thing I know I won’t be multitasking (scrolling) during. Check out these 20 new books to add to your bookshelf ASAP.

 

8. Stretch your legs up the wall

I do this for at least 10 minutes a day, every day, without fail. Legs-up-the-wall is one of the simplest yoga poses and is considered a restorative yoga posture that offers many benefits like helping the body relax and reducing stress. To try for yourself, lie flat on your back with your legs stretched straight up the wall, set your timer for 10-20 minutes and simply relax. Try a guided meditation, listen to a podcast, or even read your favorite book while letting the body be still.

 

9. Listen to a favorite playlist or podcast

Personally, I thrive on building playlists on Apple and Spotify, knowing just what song I need to hear for my current mood. Sometimes that’s a Kygo pump-up song, and other times, it’s a break-up ballad to get those tears out. No matter what your mood, music can totally provide that much-needed release. More of a podcast fan? Choose one based on your mood, whether you need something light-hearted and fun or motivating. Click here for podcasts based on any mood, and click here for 10 of our favorite women-run podcasts. 

 

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10. Meditate

This is one of those self-care practices that looks different for everyone. I personally prefer a walking guided meditation, but many people prefer to do their meditations sitting or lying down, reading or journaling, or without any music or prompts at all. No matter your meditation form of choice, there are many free apps and trackers you can download to start your meditation practice, and even just a few minutes a day can be extremely beneficial in relieving stress.

 

11. Clean up your space

Recently, as soon as my schedule got busier and I left my room in a mess every night, I started having trouble sleeping. Once I straightened things up, my sleeping patterns went back to normal. Coincidence? Perhaps, but clutter in your space directly correlates to clutter in the mind. The cleanliness of your home really does impact your headspace, and you should always aim to keep your home the same you would want it to look for visitors (because if visitors can enjoy it in tip-top shape, why shouldn’t you?). Take 15 minutes before bed to put away laundry, wipe off counters, and do the dishes. 

 

12. Detox your social media

Yes, social media can be a great place to discover new people, brands, and products or to catch up with friends and family. But we also can absorb negative content or get caught in comparison traps and feel bad about ourselves from a social media scroll. Take time to regularly go through your accounts and mute or unfollow anyone whose energy does not serve you. Your goal should be to make social media a place that provides you with nothing but joy and inspiration rather than comparison and negativity.

 

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The Most Effective Drugstore Anti-Aging Skincare Products

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Skincare has seen a lot of wild trends in recent years—from the obsession with Korean “glass skin” to peel-off masks to snail mucin, it’s safe to say that we’ve all tried just about everything imaginable in the pursuit of perfect skin. Everyone has their own reasons to care about their skin, but there is one commonality among all of us: We just want to look our very best. Because we all share this common goal, the conversation around anti-aging skincare has started for the better.

We’re a far cry from never again worrying about a smile line or crow’s feet, but the messaging that younger is better has finally started to soften, and we’re seeing less and less focus on eternal youth. Brands and media are embracing skin that’s more “lived in” and less on what was once before perceived as flaws: fine lines, wrinkles, sun spots, etc.

So when you see us discussing “anti-aging” skincare here at The Everygirl, we want to emphasize that the point isn’t to further stigmatize the aging process. For those who are no longer worried about acne and instead are onto the next phase of their relationship with their skin, here’s a list of drugstore products whose key ingredients are meant to nourish and protect your maturing and gorgeous complexion.





Versed

Press Restart Gentle Retinol Serum

good for: beginners to retinol

This is The Everygirl’s best-selling retinol product, and we like to think it’s for a good reason. If you’ve never tried retinol, this is ideal for beginners. It’s a small percentage of encapsulated retinol that’s gentle yet effective at resurfacing skin and preventing fine lines and wrinkles.

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L’Oreal Paris

Retinol Serum

good for: experienced retinol users who want a product that packs a punch

This product contains 0.3 percent of pure retinol, so it’s not for the faint of heart. Don’t get me wrong though, this product contains hyaluronic acid (a powerhouse hydrator that you should always combine with your retinol) and glycerin to moisturize and plump while it exfoliates.

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CeraVe

Anti-Aging Retinol Serum

good for: sensitive skin

This retinol serum incorporates niacinamide, a soothing anti-inflammatory, and ceramides that lock in moisture and keep your skin barrier in tact. If retinol scares you and your reactive skin, think again—this moisturizing, skin-soothing formula was made specifically for you.

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LilyAna

Naturals Retinol Cream

good for: dry skin

With over 30,000 reviews on Amazon, this little bottle’s gotta have magic in it. Obviously, you’ll find retinol on the ingredient list, but it’s also packed with all the good stuff dry skin needs to feel hydrated and plump, like hyaluronic acid, aloe, jojoba oil, shea butter, vitamin E, and green tea. As one reviewer said, “With one use, I could tell this was different. I’m addicted now and have a hard time finishing up my other products! People at work ask me what I’m doing to my skin. They tell me how super soft, supple and radiant my skin looks.” *adds to cart*

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Neutrogena

Rapid Wrinkle Repair Regenerating Cream

good for: plumping existing wrinkles and fine lines while preventing more

This cult-favorite product actually targets existing fine lines and wrinkles, not just prevents new ones from cropping up, thanks to a slow release retinol, hyaluronic acid, and Neutrogena’s proprietary glucose complex. We love that this rich cream comes in a fragrance-free version that’s safe for sensitive skin.

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RoC

Retinol Correxion Night Cream

good for: smoothing fine lines

RoC is a household name in drugstore retinol for their exclusive formula and mineral complex that boosts hydration, doesn’t clog pores, and visibly reduces fine lines and wrinkles.

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RoC

Line Smoothing Anti-Aging Retinol Eye Cream

good for: reducing crow’s feet and fine lines around the eyes

This eye cream truly does it all. Formulated with retinol to reduce puffiness, smooth fine lines and wrinkles, and brighten dark circles, it’s the makings of a perfect eye cream. Reviewers even call it a “miracle,” and we’ll take their word for it.

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Olay

Regenerist Cream

good for: dehydrated skin

This moisturizer is like a tall drink of water for dehydrated skin. As we mature, our skin tends to produce less natural oil, leading to a drier complexion than you may had been accustomed to in your early 20s. You’ll want to swap your lightweight cream for something richer, but that doesn’t mean it has to be thick and heavy. This contains a host of hydrating ingredients—peptides, hyaluronic acid, vitamin B3—that add moisture, rivaling creams over $200.

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Good Molecules

Super Peptide Serum

good for: anti-aging in your 20s

You don’t have to incorporate a bunch of intense actives to get a head start on your anti-aging regimen. Incorporate a peptide serum, like this one from Good Molecules. Peptides send signals to your skin to keep producing collagen and elastin, which are the main factors that lead to sagging skin, wrinkles, and dullness. This one (that’s under $15, might we add) offers two peptides, hyaluronic acid, and glycerin to moisturize the layers of your skin from top to bottom.

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The Ordinary

Resveratrol 3% + Ferulic Acid 3%

good for: smoothing texture

Antioxidants like resveratrol are important for protecting your skin from free-radical damage (which can lead to dull, sagging skin) and brightening and revitalizing dull skin.

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Derma E

Vitamin C Concentrated Serum

good for: brightening dark spots

Vitamin C is probably the most common antioxidant, and it’s known for its ability to brighten and add radiance to dull complexions. Opt for this if you’re looking to fade dark spots (perhaps from all that sunbathing you did as a teenager before you discovered the wonders of sunscreen). While you wait for it to work its brightening magic, you’ll get a glowy complexion thanks to aloe, hyaluronic acid, and vitamin E.

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No7

Restore & Renew Face & Neck Night Cream

good for: fighting tech neck early

If you’re currently laying down with your neck creased, say I. If you’re focused on anti-aging, you’ll want a dedicated cream for the delicate skin on your neck that’s prone to creasing and fine lines much before your face. This lightweight cream won’t feel sticky or goopy when you apply, and you’ll wake up with smooth, plump skin after continued use.

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